I was under the impression that as my father grew older, he became wiser. However, that is only part of the truth. My father was always given me great life advice, but I’ve only just started listening.
Today, we sat together in his living room in the house I grew up in and did some catching up. My grandfather has been in the hospital recently concerning heart issues and my father told me he is planning to travel out and visit his parents. My dad was explaining my grandfather’s condition to me and mentioned that his lungs are also in poor condition.
“What seems to be the problem with his lungs?,” I asked. “Well,” my dad told me, “Grandpa used to be a heavy smoker.” That statement shocked me. I had never seen my grandpa smoke a cigarette in my entire life. I told my dad this and he responded that my grandpa had quit over 40 years ago.
Now, everybody knows that smoking is bad for you, but I never imagined that you could still be suffering the consequences of smoking after 40 years of being clean. My father continued on to say that the same thing had happened to my great-grandfather and added that they were lucky to quit when they did or their lives would’ve been much shorter. “Once the damage has been done,” he said, “it’s done.”
“My dad told me that every pleasure in life has consequences,” my father stated. “Just because you cannot see the effects now doesn’t mean that it won’t catch up to you.”
Reading that you might say its pretty common sense kind of advice, but how often have you ignored common sense and had to learn the hard way? My grandfather was probably told what could happen if he smoked, but he did it anyway and now it’s biting him in the ass. I know I’m guilty of ignoring good advice, and most of us are.
So why do we sometimes turn a deaf ear to good advice? I believe it is because although we can comprehend good advice, we often fail to actually understand the importance of what was said because we think along the lines of short-term pleasure and haven’t experienced the consequences of our mistakes yet.
They say that a smart man learns from his mistakes, but a wise man learns from the mistakes of others. Be smart and listen to good advice and then be wise and put it into practice. If that isn’t a sure way to avoid some heartbreakers in life, then I don’t know what is.
That doesn’t mean to restrict yourself of pleasure, in fact, some of the things you receive pleasure from can be beneficial. For example, I can often feel very pleased with myself after a good workout, and I will undoubtedly receive benefits from my exercise. However, if you receive pleasure from doing things you know are harmful, remember all the good advice you have received on the subject and judge for yourself as to whether or not the consequences of your actions outweigh the short- term pleasure doing those things gives you in return.
Do you really have to learn the hard way and be suddenly struck by the reality of the situation you have gotten yourself into, or can you be the wise man and learn from the mistakes of others? The choice is yours.
Comment below or contact the author about the best advice you’ve ever received or even about some good advice you received but didn’t listen to and the consequences of not heeding that advice. Perhaps it can help save someone else some heartbreak in the future!