NO FUCKING AROUND NOVEMBER

Do you ever feel like you need to get your shit together? Or that you’re progressing but there’s something holding you back? Do you ever wish that you could start fresh and get a roll on? Well, that’s what No Fucking Around November is all about. (If you can’t handle the F-bomb you’re too sensitive.)

I have been doing good, but I could do better. For a long time now, I have been doing the things that I should be doing as well as things that I shouldn’t be doing. I’ve come a long way, but I’m still being weighted down by my vices. Sometimes I lose sight of my progress because of the time and attention I give to the things that distract me from my purpose.

Well, I decided to start fresh this November. I decided to stop fucking around.

NFAN is a month-long event that I will be recording here on Spiritual Warrior-Scholar, and I hope that it inspires others to take up the challenge of NFAN. If you’re tired of progressing inch by inch and want to shake off some dead weight, then NFAN is a challenge for you. So what are the rules and guidelines of NFAN?

RULE #1 The “NO’s” of No Fucking Around November

Before you set out to decide what your goals of NFAN should be, figure out what you shouldn’t be doing. Set your “NO’s”. For example, I am saying no to any form of drugs/alcohol (total sobriety), Netflix/TV, chips (the only junk food I really eat), and also to spending money on anything that isn’t in my NFAN budget.

Now, I won’t act like these “NO’s” don’t terrify me. It’s going to be tough giving up all of those things that I feel are holding me back because they’re so easy to do. It’s easy to smoke a bowl and binge on Netflix while munching on a bag of chips. It’s hard to have self-control and tell yourself “no” when life is stressful and you just want that dopamine release.

It’s for this reason I wrote a “why” to justify each of the “NO’s” of NFAN so that everytime my resolve waivers I can read my “why’s” and reinforce my resolve. As soon as you feel your resolve shaken by the lust for your vices, read your “why’s” and focus your attention on that instead of letting your attention wander to your vices. If you cannot focus your attention on the end goal, then you will fail. Remember: Where attention goes, energy flows.

RULE #2 Set a Reward

We’re reward driven creatures; let’s face it. That’s precisely why it can be difficult to say no to your vices because they are rewarding for the moment. NFAN is, in its essence, a challenge of willpower. Taking up the challenge of NFAN just to say you did it doesn’t sound too motivating, so decide a way to reward yourself at the end of the month.

Every time your resolve waivers, focus your attention to your “why’s” and the reward that waits for you at the end of the month. My reward, for example, will be a tattoo that I’ve been wanting to get for a long time.

RULE #3 Hold Yourself Accountable

The whole point of NFAN would be null if you didn’t hold yourself accountable for committing the deadly sin of a “NO”. So choose one or two people in your life that you see often and ask them to hold you accountable for your “NO’s” in exchange for a reward. I’ve chosen two of the closest people in my life to hold me accountable for a cash reward. Meaning that if they see me acting in conflict with my “NO’s”, I owe them cash.

I chose a monitary punishment because it’s extreme enough to keep me in check. However, if you cannot afford to do the same or find that method too extreme, you can take your accountant out to eat or do their dishes, etc. You get the idea.

RULE #4  Set Your Goals

Rule #4 is exactly what it sounds like. I chose to set Personal goals, Fitness goals, Financial goals, and Business goals. When choosing your goals and then going into detail with each one, be realistic and clear about what you want to accomplish. Plan goals for the day, week, or even the month.

RULE #5 Record EVERYTHING.

Write down your “NO’s”. Write down your “why’s”. Write down your reward, your goals, and your budget. If you don’t record everything, then it’s going to be easy to forget and thus easy to fail. Get out an old journal, spiral notebook, or whatever you have at your disposal and write everything down. Write down what you have accomplished and where you have fallen short of your goals EVERY DAY.

I have mapped out NFAN in my bullet journal to an extreme. I have charts for weekly and monthly goals. I have my budget and financial goals planned out, as well as daily financial statements. I have charts for the recording of my workouts/ training, daily to-do lists, and more. The main objective of recording everything you do in NFAN is to create awareness.

Remember: Change comes through awareness. Once you really know what you are investing your time and energy into you can use that knowledge to create change. According to recent data, the average American adult spends nearly 5.9 hours a day looking at the screen of various forms of technology.  That’s a lot of time unless you’re using that screen time for business or educational purposes, which I guarantee most people aren’t doing.

If the data is correct, that is nearly 41.3 hours a week of screen time. 41.3 hours, y’all! That’s working overtime at a full-time job! That’s ridiculous! If the average person used the same amount of time to develop their own business, then they could have the life they wanted.

That’s what NFAN is all about, getting rid of those time and energy consuming distractions and focusing on what you want to do for yourself and your life. Exercise your willpower. It’s scary; I know, but what are you really missing out on? What do you really want for yourself and your life?

Be disciplined forever sounds overwhelming, so just try it for this month. Tell yourself it’s only November you have to get through and see how you do. Maybe the momentum you built over November will carry on through December and those vices will have less control over your life and the direction it’s going in.

If you take the NFAN Challenge, then all the power to you! I will be sharing my results here on Spiritual Warrior-Scholar and if you’d like to share your journey as well, email or contact me with your NFAN story for a chance to have it shared here on Spiritual Warrior-Scholar!

P.S. The featured photo of this post is the anime character Rock Lee from the incredibly popular show Naruto. I felt that a picture of Rock Lee was appropriate for this post because Rock Lee is a genius of effort. If you are unfamiliar with the show and character, Rock Lee is a Nina who cannot use Ninjutsu or Genjutsu like the other Ninja. However, this does not stop him from being one of the most formidable opponents in the series. Rock Lee is a badass not because he is special or was born that way, but because he tries harder than anyone else to develop those skills which he does possess.

 

 

 

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